As you may all know if you ready my first post this year, I purchased my first home. We went from being in a small two bedroom one bath 712 square foot condo to a three bedroom two bathroom 1489 sq ft home with a detached garage. Needless to say we have twice the space as we previously had yet the amount of stuff we had in our condo plus two storage units worth filled up our home quite fast. Even my hubbie said to me as we moved stuff in….how do we have so much stuff! I of course know the answer to that question and in the most polite manner I could possible put it, my hubbie doesn’t really like to give good stuff away. I will admit however, that I am good at giving stuff away and throwing stuff out that I don’t need but sometimes I have difficulties making the time to actually sift through everything and when I do find the time it often makes me anxious and I can barely get stuff done.
“Taking good care of your things leads to taking good care of yourself”
In my quest to find something to watch on Netflix while folding my piles of laundry and cloth diapers I ran into this show called Tidying Up with Marie Kondo. The show is mainly about using her method to tidy up the home to bring joy to ones life. It covers families with kids, families who are downsizing, empty nesters, after a family loss, etc. So after watching several of the episodes I decided to look into her method and purchased her book called “Spark Joy”. One thing that really stood out in the very beginning of her book is when she says “Taking good care of your things leads to taking good care of yourself”. Since one of my personal goals for 2019 was to take better care of my “self” I figured that using Marie Kondo’s method could contribute to bringing joy to my life and reduce my anxiety revolving around my home’s upkeep. One anxiety I have around keeping a tidy home is the lack of help around my home. I cook, clean, do laundry, etc. We are a family of 3 kids and two adults. My kids are 8, 2 and three months so most of everything falls on my shoulders and the little bit that I can get my daughter to help me with. I hope that after I get through this experience I can involve my husband and teach my daughter some new life skills.
Marie says in her book that there are only two skills necessary to keep your house in order 1. The ability to keep what sparks joy and chuck the rest and 2. the ability to decide where to keep each thing you choose and always put it back in its place. When I read this my first thought was YES! always put things back in its place…I instantly felt happiness. I guess maybe its because I have like a really small case of OCD that feeds off of things being in their place…but if I let things get out of control (which happens when you’re a working mom) that is when the anxiety sets in and I have trouble focusing on what to do first….and that is where I am now.
I started off when we moved into our new home about in early December I put all my clothes in my closet and then when my husband emptied our storage units and brought all my clothes I had in storage it all of a sudden became this daunting space issue with my clothes. the biggest issue I had was accepting I didn’t fit in much of the clothes after I had my son two years ago and I still don’t fit into them because I just had another baby….womp womp womp.
I have three challenges
- time; with a new born and a toddler
- involve the hubbie and have him be on board
- clothes that don’t fit me but I still want around for when I do loose that weight from being preggo.
So in tackling my home step one is to look through my clothes and only keep what sparks joy and chuck the rest.
Here is a before picture of my stuff.
Here is the after picture of my stuff.
From the huge pile of clothes I had, I managed to give away probably about 1/3 of all my clothes, mostly a mixture of clothes that I no longer wanted and or fit me. I did however keep a box of clothes that I love, but didn’t fit. I kept it because in my quest to take better care of myself I hope to be able to fit in those clothes by summer time, but that is a whole other post on its own 🙂
Originally I gave myself a week to finish this process, but I didn’t. I feel like this whole process took me WAAAYYYY longer than it should have, but I have a 3 month old baby and a very mischievous toddler who keeps me on my toes ALL day.
Here’s to keeping our homes as tidy as we possibly can. Until next time.